I've noticed this more and more around the internet in the last few months - explanations, apologies, and justifications at the top of meaningful blog posts. There's been a huge push in the last year or so towards an acceptance of "authentic" blogging, which is great, but it seems like a number of bloggers aren't actually comfortable being imperfect on their blogs and so they shield their vulnerability behind defensiveness. It makes me sad to read a post that begins with a near renunciation of the content that follows because it makes me feel like the blogger either doesn't trust me or, worse, she doesn't trust herself.
Blogging should build confidence. It's an opportunity for us to develop our voices and to discover communities of like-minded friends; we should be able to publish what we want how we want. I don't think it should ever be necessary to post disclaimers on our own blogs, no matter how personal or controversial the topics we write about might be. That doesn't at all mean that we should feel obliged to post personal or controversial thoughts - I like Bethany's take on perceived perfection online, where she reminds bloggers of the appeal of the pretty and polite - but, if we feel compelled to by something inside ourselves, we should do so with confidence. I'm sure I have written my own disclaimers over the past four years but, going forward, I'm going to follow this flowchart if I'm tempted to add a one to a post:
If I wanted to be funny, this would be the perfect place to add a disclaimer - something along the lines of "this works for me but it might not work for everyone and that's okay" - but I really do want to know: what do you use to guide what you post and how when you blog about intimate or tricky subjects?