I was kind of a nightmare to be around last Christmas. You probably wouldn't have noticed here - because we bloggers like to keep things sparkly even when we're keeping it real - but it was a tough time for me. By Christmas, I had decided to quit my job in London which, we knew, meant that I'd almost certainly have to move back to DC before summer. Jon and I had begun talking about what that would mean for us as a couple, but nothing was decided. And, on top of all that, my grandmother had started to very seriously not be doing well.
So yes, there was a ton going on, and I was stressed out. Although I'm ashamed of this, I admit now that I took a lot of my frustration and confusion and sadness out on Jon and those around us. (You remember how I deal with stress, right? They do say that the first step to solving a problem is realizing you have one...)
Things have really fallen into place since then, though, so there's no excuse for that sort of behavior this Christmas. Yes, there are still changes afoot (some of which I'll be able to share soon!) but, relatively, life is great. So this year, while I'm surrounded by Jon's family for two gloriously chaotic weeks, I'm going to make the above quote from Robert Holden my mantra. I wish I had known of it last year, as it would have made a huge difference, but it's never too late to start with this kind of attitude.
Tell me, dear readers - where is your happiness this season?
I want to hang that quote on my bathroom mirror... it's such a good one! This year we're taking it easy and celebrating Christmas together tomorrow night before heading off to Namibia! Although I miss family, I couldn't be happier to be spending Christmas with my love... like you!
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Jenna
I must have been channeling you, Betsy, because this morning was just one of those days where I felt lucky and happy. It was absolutely pouring (as it does in England... typical!) and I've never been so cold or wet in my life. But I didn't feel like having a moan about how miserable I felt; it was the first time that I felt so lucky to live here now. And as you said about things falling into place this Christmas season, I too felt that they genuinely have!!
ReplyDeleteisn't it? I don't usually go in for this sort of self-help stuff, but it's SO true :)
ReplyDeleteoh yay! that makes me so happy to hear. it can be hard during English winters, but remembering that you're actually THERE brings back the sparkle!
ReplyDeleteLove it! Happiness really can be anywhere if you chose to look for it. Ooh, it's warm in here! Hey, look, I still have clean, running water! So glad you don't have so much to deal with this season (I hope), and I'm happy to have people like you as friends!
ReplyDeleteI love that quote. I really had to learn to stop searching for happiness - it was so exhausting. I have found it now, just in a different way. Last time this year was one of the worst times of my life. Hoping to have a more enjoyable holiday this year, however, I'm always grateful. :) Xo
ReplyDeleteyou're so right - it is all relative! I'm glad to have you too :)
ReplyDeleteI guess we have to come through those times to know that we can? but very glad to hear that you're in a better place now :) it's 95% mental, for sure!
ReplyDeleteLife is a crazy ride, and sometimes, it's hard to keep things in perspective. But I will bet that you can count 100 things that are amazing about your life too. :)
ReplyDeleteLove the quote! And as I sit here with Lila on me, sicker than every before, I am just happy that my whole family is around me, and that this illness is fleeting. I hope you have a wonderful time in England!
ReplyDeleteI think I've come along way since last December, too. I'm really looking forward to our first Christmas in Georgia :) xo, e
ReplyDeleteThat is a great quote. Thanks for sharing. My happiness is in my family and enjoying my current phase of life.
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas!
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Catherine (your newest follower)
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yes! there are so many amazing things about and around all of us - we just need that perspective. thanks, lady :)
ReplyDeleteoh no, I'm so sorry Andrea! I hope she feels better soon. but I bet all the cuddles are helping? poor baby - and you too!
ReplyDeleteSUCH a good way of looking at things! welcome, new friend :)
ReplyDeleteYAY! you're making so many amazing memories and traditions - it's so fun to watch! much love to you and Thomas.
ReplyDeleteI think that is a lovely quote to make your mantra! My happiness is being warm and cozy cuddling on the couch next to our christmas tree :) weird?
ReplyDeleteI have never heard this quote before but I love it. I feel like as I am searching for my first real post-college big girl job, I am so caught up in what will happen 2 or 3 months from now that I barely notice what is happening now.
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Lauren Anne
http://dcgirlinpearls.com
This season my happiness is having my mother visiting, my tree, and celebrating the holidays in my house for the first time! Happy holidays Betsy x
ReplyDeletethose are all VERY happy things!
ReplyDeletenot at all - I can't wait till that's me too :)
ReplyDeleteLove this quote and your "realness" in this post. Just beautiful. Hoping you had a wonderful Christmas this year. Love for you to check out my Christmas blog post too :) Following...
ReplyDeletexo Lulu
simplylulustyle.com