See, Jon's much more private than I am. At first I chalked it up to being British and reserved, but lots of Brits overshare online; then I thought maybe it had something to do with being a boy and clueless, but he works in publicity/marketing so it's not like he's unaware of what's involved in getting out there. I guess it's just how he is; I think it actually has less to do with preferring anonymity as an individual than it does with wanting intimate moments shared with a select few to stay private.
(Yes, I see the irony in sharing this on a blog. No, he didn't say all of that in so many words, but I'm extrapolating for you. And no, I didn't clear this post with him before publishing it, which I usually do, but yes, I have told him about it now that it's live.)
So I promised Jon that I'd minimize my blogging while he's here and I suggested that I might take an entire month away from Betsy Transatlantically when he moves over in the spring. He knows how much I love blogging and he absolutely supports it, but I'm well aware that he'd be happier if I spent less time in front of a screen when we're together. To be totally honest, I felt that second bit was a grand gesture. But it turns out that my blog isn't what he'd choose for me to drop were I to step back from social media. You know what he'd rather I never signed up for?
Twitter and Instagram.
I understand why, of course. The spontaneous micro-documentation of these platforms interrupts our intimacy, impinging on the smallest of shared moments, in a way that blogging doesn't. But still, I've grown reliant - dependent even, maybe - on the community and the conversations on Twitter and Instagram; it would feel like a punishment to give them up completely. The connections I've made and the friendships I maintain through these forums are real, and it would be a shame to lose them.
That being said, while Jon's here for this visit, I will limit my social media presence. As with my last trip to England for my wedding, the priority is being present in the experiences I'm sharing with those physically around me. Long term, though, we don't have a solution, and I thought you might have some insight, dear readers. Do you run up against this with your significant other or family? I'd love to hear how you navigate the often blurry line between public and private, especially because I think that where I'd put the line and where Jon would put the line are miles apart.