Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Wedding Wednesday: You + Me + Him = Us


Dear readers, my first Wedding Wednesday post feels like it was such a long time ago!  I come across as very sweet and naive, reading it now; since June 13, 2012, I've became a bit jaded and cynical about the whole wedding planning process.  But I'm glad I got over the initial discomfort and blogged throughout our engagement because now we have this wonderful diary of how we created the day on which we'll celebrate our love and commitment.  I bet we'll enjoy looking at these posts for years down the road!

I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has read, commented on, and emailed about my Wedding Wednesday posts over the past 14 months.  Your advice and support has been amazing as we've gone through the highs and lows of planning this and I really don't think we could have done it without you.  From reminding me about the vows that really matter to assuring me that bling is a good thing to holding my hand during visa crises to suggesting different options for nailpolish - well, you're just as much a part of this wedding as anyone even if you won't be there.  Thank you.

However, I also want to confirm something: I know that our wedding will not be the apex of our marriage.  If anything, things will get even better after August 24!  Jon and I are both very aware that this is just one day.  It will be a wonderful day, an opportunity to share our relationship with our friends and families, but it's just a day.  What happens after that is the real celebration, and we can't wait to be hand in hand for the rest of our lives.

That being said, next week I'd love to hear your one single piece of advice for our wedding day.  I know that some of you are fiancées and recent brides, but I also know that many of you got married a while ago and more still aren't yet near engagement.  No matter where you are on your journey, even if you don't ever want to get married, I know you have opinions and thoughts on weddings!  (We all do.  It's okay.)  I would be absolutely honored if you'd write a post next Wednesday with the most important wisdom you can give to a couple about to get married; what should we be sure to do (or not do!) on our wedding day?

There won't be a sponsor link-up here in August because I paused sponsorships for the month, but let me know in the comments if this is something you're interested in participating in and I'll set it up!  I know a few of you feel like you missed out on Wedding Wednesdays because you didn't blog through your engagement or like you can't do Wedding Wednesdays even though you might want to now and again because you're not engaged yourself, but this is your chance!  What do you think?

Speaking of what do you think... my sister is looking for some inspiration.  Does anyone know where she can find some?


45 comments:

  1. Umm, hello. #threeifbymarriage is perfect. Do not forget Sir Charles.

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  2. I can't believe it's only 11 days away... seems like just yesterday we were sitting at the V&A saying how it would be here faster than you knew it! :)

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  3. How exciting! I know you'll make such a beautiful bride, Betsy! x

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  4. :) I loved your Wedding Wednesdays! I've been procrastinating on wedding planning and its time to get busy! Next week I'll be posting my engagement photos but I'll make sure to add a little something for you too :)

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  5. it has been so amazing to follow along with your Wedding Wednesday posts, Betsy. I can't wait to see all the actual wedding posts (will you be doing those?)
    and I love a good wedding hashtag. What's wrong with #theredcoatsarecoming? ;)

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  6. Maggie Robertson WalshAugust 14, 2013 at 12:04 PM

    Okay this sounds silly, but having just been through it myself the best advice I received for my actual wedding day was to make sure you EAT!! I'm sure you have some fantastic feast planned, but as soon as people start coming around to congratulate you, you won't eat one single bite of it. Perhaps you can have something sent to your room or try to eat something between ceremony/reception if possible. Other than that, enjoy!!!

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  7. Love that text message exchange. xx

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  8. you are right, it's obviously not just about the wedding but it sure is fun to talk about!!

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  9. 11 days! Gah! It is so close, I am so happy for you :) I would love to write something for you next Wednesday, as an old pro ;)

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  10. I totally second this. I was so excited, I barely ate anything and my ceremony was at 5pm. By the time photos were being taken, I was so faint that I had to ask the photographer to ask someone to get me a snack!

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  11. No ideas for a hashtag right now...but I will ask my husband, he is SUPER clever when it comes to that stuff (he came up with the idea for our signature drink's name--Eide like another, which was a play on my maiden name).


    For advice...let.it.go. I'm sure you've heard that SOMETHING will go wrong (because it will), but seriously don't even give it a single thought. Don't even try to solve the problem--let someone else solve it (because there will be plenty of people around you willing to help). Just relax and enjoy it, whatever might happen, because at the end of the day, you'll still be married!

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  12. #threeifbymarriage....love it! Keep savoring it all!

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  13. Bhahaha...I love the hashtag ideas! Those are awesome. I am debating if I want us to have a hashtag on our wedding day. Still up in the air about that.


    You know, as far as advice goes, I think all the other comments hit the nail on the head. #1. Something will go wrong. #2. You can't control the weather #3. Just breathe and enjoy every moment since it flies by. How's that?

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  14. I love the idea of linking up next week! Count me in! :)

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  15. Georgia ChristakisAugust 14, 2013 at 7:16 PM

    so excited for you two! maybe #britandyankgetmarried? that's what I'd do. You guys are clever, I'm sure you'll think of something...Can't wait to see the photos!

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  16. Ah SO soon! Have fun in these last few days... you can plan for as long as you like but a couple days I'd say you have to let it go and just enjoy it... I remember I didn't quite know what to do the week before the wedding because actually most things were done and I felt like I should be stressed and doing stuff? Like everybody kept asking how last minute things were going and if I was handling the stress okay, but actually I had nothing to do (though my poor mum had lots back home!)

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  17. Yo yo! My advice is to not worry about whether people are having a good time. They're all grown-ups and can handle yourself. And people will understand if you want to stay by your husband's side all day (because you know, long distance etc).

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  18. If you host the link up next week I'll definitely join in. So excited for you!!! These days approaching your wedding are precious. Enjoy them.

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  19. I cannot believe that the big day is only 11 days away! Enjoy every second Betsy... I can't wait for the photos and recaps :)


    xxx
    Jenna

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  20. YAY it's so close! It has been so fun reading your posts during your engagement and I can't wait to read about your big day! I totally agree, August 24 is just the start of the celebration! Congrats in advance! I want to read all of the advice people give you next week because I need some, too! :) Thanks again for linking up!

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  21. I will! definitely definitely :)


    it might be mean to use #theredcoatsarecoming because they lost and I don't want to rub that in. haha!

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  22. I do hear this a lot from people! We'll make sure to get some canapés hidden away for us after the ceremony before we do photos :)

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  23. it's the most fun to talk about! it's hard to talk about preparing for a marriage because that's more qualitative but a wedding is mostly quantitative - lots to discuss!

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  24. YAY thank you! we'll do the link up then :)

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  25. WE GOT ONE. check out my Instagram later today to find out what it is :)


    and YES. at this point, my motto for the day is: I DON'T WANT TO KNOW. I've done everything I can and things will go wrong anyway and I don't even want to know about them. I just want to have fun and enjoy!

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  26. #2 - it's England. we'll probably have six seasons over the 8 hours! haha

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  27. Beth came up with one for us! I'll Instagram it later today :)

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  28. I think I'll be at loose ends in London next week - it's all done now! time to sit back and relax :)

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  29. THAT IS MY #1 WORST THING WHEN I THROW PARTIES. I need this reminder. thank you!

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  30. YAY I'm so glad! It will be live at 7am BST :)

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  31. yay and likewise! thanks for HOSTING the big link-up - I always enjoy it even if I remember late :P

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  32. you are too cute. its coming up SOOO soon! i'd say on the big day follow my uncle rustys advice (ha! seriously...) remember to stop and just take it all in. it FLIES by but you'll never be surrounded by so many people who are there to celebrate you (and the mister). i cant desribe the feeling of LOVE but it's a good one :) HAVE FUN. and make sure you get to eat some of that catered food! xo

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  33. Oh, I love your idea for next Wednesday! I will absolutely post something. I am so so so excited for you!!! Honestly, I think your attitude about this whole wedding planning stuff has been awesome. No matter what happens, I just know that you and Jon are going to have an amazing time on your wedding day. Eeeeee!!!!!

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  34. It's amazing that your wedding so close now; it's hard to believe how long it's been since you announced it!


    I love how you and Jon aren't going to regard your wedding as the pinnacle of your marriage: I think it's wonderful that you intend for your union to be better and stronger afterwards. You'll both be great! :)

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  35. I know - it feels like yesterday and ages ago all at once! thank you :)

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