tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post5342824452526246148..comments2023-12-24T08:02:36.605-05:00Comments on Betsy Transatlantically: Living In Harmony With Your ContradictionsBetsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04953626122327472245noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-52257602296897884872013-04-17T09:44:41.005-04:002013-04-17T09:44:41.005-04:00thank you, Belle! I totally get how there can be o...thank you, Belle! I totally get how there can be one right way for one person - but that doesn't mean that there's the same one right way for every person. I'm so sorry you got hurt.Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-33592673294345161382013-04-15T22:10:11.714-04:002013-04-15T22:10:11.714-04:00I'm reading some of your old posts (since I...I'm reading some of your old posts (since I'm a new reader), and I'm so glad I found this one. As an intentional virgin (especially as one who hadn't really done much of *anything* more than kissing pre-boyfriend), I have experienced some of the backlash and harsh criticism you mention in your post. It didn't come until after I'd left the South (where most people are much more conservative than I am). I was pretty hurt by it, especially since I've tried SO hard to be open-minded and non-judgmental about other people's choices. This is a really thoughtful post, and I appreciate you writing it.Belle Viergehttp://twitter.com/belle_viergenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-6419861804093415972013-02-22T01:03:35.948-05:002013-02-22T01:03:35.948-05:00I appreciate the way you continue to put yourself ...I appreciate the way you continue to put yourself out here like this Betsy; your honesty and your talent for the written word. We should all respect each others choices (as long as those choices are not hurting anyone else), end of. x.Sara Louisehttp://www.sarainlepetitvillage.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-25141409494692203652013-02-20T19:40:06.494-05:002013-02-20T19:40:06.494-05:00this is my favorite: But I’d urge you to appreciat...this is my favorite: But I’d urge you to appreciate that we all have the right to craft our own identities and to prioritize them in the way that is best for us. :)Tina Bylandhttp://likeordinarylife.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-5875475065494851522013-02-20T08:19:58.473-05:002013-02-20T08:19:58.473-05:00thank you, Kate. I want to do more thinking about...thank you, Kate. I want to do more thinking about the possible connections between insecurity/judgement/faith - not that they aways go together, of course, but I guess the intersection comes when someone feels threatened in their beliefs? hm. must think more about this after I've had another cup of coffee!Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-82182071203547519662013-02-20T08:17:09.465-05:002013-02-20T08:17:09.465-05:00oh YES good yay! I'll check tonight after work...oh YES good yay! I'll check tonight after work :)Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-43763927513887950232013-02-19T23:33:31.385-05:002013-02-19T23:33:31.385-05:00I'm writing a post kind of related to this. k...I'm writing a post kind of related to this. keep yours eyes peeled. (tomorrow, maybe?)kaityhttp://browniediaries.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-39259005338256195842013-02-19T18:11:44.321-05:002013-02-19T18:11:44.321-05:00This is so well written, Betsy- it was so interest...This is so well written, Betsy- it was so interesting to read the post and the comments! Blogging has absolutely broadened my horizons as well. I wish more people would celebrate the fact that we are all able to make different choices for ourselves, because ultimately there is no one-size-fits-all recipe for happiness and fulfillment. And like someone else said in the comments below, I genuinely believe that people who turn things like this into an us-versus-them fight are suffering from some form of insecurity. Thanks for making me put my thinking cap on today :)Katehttp://www.katelynbrookeblog.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-85559962680968701942013-02-19T16:49:14.466-05:002013-02-19T16:49:14.466-05:00Even if reading Steven Crowder's article anger...Even if reading Steven Crowder's article angered me greatly!!Bethhttp://sanssouciblog.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-77376746094345137682013-02-19T16:45:50.002-05:002013-02-19T16:45:50.002-05:00Very interesting post and as always, very well wri...Very interesting post and as always, very well written. I definitely read blogs of people who are different to me and it definitely shapes how you see the world. I sometimes feel like I am in a little liberal atheist bubble, especially as you tend to hang around with similar people. Reading blogs from people from different walks of life with different beliefs helps me form my beliefs and challenges my attitudes on a multitude of different things and I like it. I am constantly contradicting myself in what I think daily!Bethhttp://sanssouciblog.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-58793083199532951252013-02-19T15:51:20.300-05:002013-02-19T15:51:20.300-05:00thank YOU for your eyes and thoughts and support!thank YOU for your eyes and thoughts and support!Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-24953282129262799002013-02-19T15:44:15.775-05:002013-02-19T15:44:15.775-05:00Brava! *round of applause* Thanks again for lettin...Brava! *round of applause* Thanks again for letting me take a peek into the pre-published conversation. :)Lindsayhttp://twitter.com/SapphireLindsaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-31279256006578564552013-02-19T13:13:12.615-05:002013-02-19T13:13:12.615-05:00thank you! believe it or not, the second paragraph...thank you! believe it or not, the second paragraph was the part I was most nervous about publishing... but you're all still here anyway!Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-20200171747917151542013-02-19T13:07:30.729-05:002013-02-19T13:07:30.729-05:00right!? There's a very popular blog written by...right!? There's a very popular blog written by a Baptist stay-at-home mom in Arkansas, and I devour it with morbid fascination - I never comment because I have no idea what I'd say, Her life is so radically different from mine, but at the same time she loves her family and she worries about raising her children right and she treasures her time with her friends... so at the end of the day, how different are we, really? thank you :)Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-75934661409337523612013-02-19T12:59:14.909-05:002013-02-19T12:59:14.909-05:00You know, I was just thinking about this the other...You know, I was just thinking about this the other day. I've ended up following a wide variety of blogs and have been blown away by the things I've learned. I recently found out that one of my somewhat regular reads waited until SHE WAS ENGAGED for her first kiss. I think my jaw actually dropped. My first reaction was to stop following this blog - how could I ever relate to her and what she wrote?? But then I realized it - I was totally fascinated and found it refreshing to read an account of someone that is SO different from my own (I'm a fellow floozy;)). You've articulated this sentiment very nicely :)Monoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-78534654582269469502013-02-19T12:56:19.541-05:002013-02-19T12:56:19.541-05:00you know, I've had a hankering to go back to s...you know, I've had a hankering to go back to school for a few months, but after preparing for this post (http://instagram.com/p/VU2XRRws8u/ if you don't believe me!) and editing it, I think the urge had been worked out :) thank you, and I really look forward to hearing your thoughts once you've had some time to process.Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-29935603476589263192013-02-19T12:54:33.009-05:002013-02-19T12:54:33.009-05:00thank you :) I wanted to tell Jenna, too, that it ...thank you :) I wanted to tell Jenna, too, that it took me two weeks to think about and draft this post - the conversation doesn't have to end today! the larger issue is one that I think we'll all be faced with throughout our lives.Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-86950001972817623222013-02-19T12:44:39.026-05:002013-02-19T12:44:39.026-05:00I can see how that would be the case for a lot of ...I can see how that would be the case for a lot of people, and I'm more understanding in that case — it's harder to fault someone for being unable to agree to disagree when you know they truly care about you and are trying to help you. But I actually don't run into this problem with my friends, I guess because I've gotten pretty good at finding open-minded people who are understanding and supportive even if they don't agree (or, I've cut out the friends that weren't because in those cases, there were other big issues as well).<br /><br />I see this more because I grew up in the Bible Belt, where a lot of people feel the need to turn political and religious issues into personal attacks, and that's what I really hate. If you don't believe what they believe, you are wrong and obviously a bad person, that's it, the end. What makes it worse is that the way they handle these issues goes against other things they say they believe. But I should probably stop now, because if I get into hypocrisy talk, we'll be here all day!Lisa // Elembeehttp://elembee.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-76084353775949187832013-02-19T12:43:31.064-05:002013-02-19T12:43:31.064-05:00I've been trying to draft a response to this f...I've been trying to draft a response to this for the last 10 minutes or so, but nothing sounds right. So I guess I'll just say that I absolutely love this, and bravo.Nicole @ Treasure Tromphttp://treasuretromp.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-16266200050162798052013-02-19T12:34:16.995-05:002013-02-19T12:34:16.995-05:00I've never seen or read the vagina monologues,...I've never seen or read the vagina monologues, but my favorite Ted talk is this one by Eve Ensler: http://www.ted.com/talks/eve_ensler_on_security.html<br />Why? Because it is insecurity in oneself that causes one to judge others unfairly.Gillian Ladleyhttp://twitter.com/gladleynetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-43782407180422026342013-02-19T12:26:09.300-05:002013-02-19T12:26:09.300-05:00I've only recently discovered your blog and wa...I've only recently discovered your blog and was again pointed here from Eliza... what a well-written piece. With a degree in English, I literally felt like I was reading a Thesis written for one of my classes back in the day. But more so - the topic, it's such a vital one to cover, and to cover it here? Thank you. Thank you! I have so much to think about, to talk about.... I need to digest this though...Jenna | The Paleo Projectnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-68301225925940578202013-02-19T12:25:39.027-05:002013-02-19T12:25:39.027-05:00Loved this, Betsy. I know something like this take...Loved this, Betsy. I know something like this takes guts to publish, but I hope that anyone who might find themselves immediately offended at the surface message digs a bit deeper - that there's space in this world for all of us, with differing opinions, to respect and still care for each other.Lauren | Seventeenth & Irvinghttp://seventeenthandirving.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-72198957598699489332013-02-19T11:32:19.709-05:002013-02-19T11:32:19.709-05:00thank you :) I think a lot of not being able to ag...thank you :) I think a lot of not being able to agree to disagree comes down to ideas of responsibility - like, as my friend, is it your responsibility to save me from making bad choices? a topic for another post, maybe, but one that I've been thinking about a lot since I started discussing pre-marital sex (and faith, to be honest) with different people of different backgrounds!Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-34783103493001758492013-02-19T11:26:54.131-05:002013-02-19T11:26:54.131-05:00oh man - I can't even imagine trying to explai...oh man - I can't even imagine trying to explain all of this to kids - although maybe they know it innately and don't have a problem with it, and we only learn to be uncomfortable/judgmental as we get older? there's a song EXACTLY about this from the South Pacific that was really controversial in its time but is still all-too relevant... http://youtu.be/fPzVMTHbHV0Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-67359054622153837662013-02-19T11:22:40.695-05:002013-02-19T11:22:40.695-05:00That is such a good point. I've been kind of h...That is such a good point. I've been kind of hiding from the things that will make me appear "conflicted and crazy" to outsiders instead of deeply and profoundly human. I'm so glad you wrote this post.Audrey the Turtlehttp://www.stuffaudreysays.com/noreply@blogger.com