tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post1076476024863412830..comments2023-12-24T08:02:36.605-05:00Comments on Betsy Transatlantically: Wedding Wednesday: Smashing Tradition - Mazel Tov!Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04953626122327472245noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-26788640711116536262013-04-05T09:05:26.648-04:002013-04-05T09:05:26.648-04:00is it weird that I don't like being fed by som...is it weird that I don't like being fed by someone else? like, even if Jon and I are at a restaurant and he offers me a forkful of his food, I will either take the fork from him or I'll ask him to put the food on my plate so I can help myself. I bet Freud would have a field day with that...Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-30166677094432507922013-04-04T16:13:06.338-04:002013-04-04T16:13:06.338-04:00We didn't have a reception line, we did speech...We didn't have a reception line, we did speeches the British way, we DID feed each other cake but it was super awkward (funny memory), there was NO garter toss because I did not wear a garter, no mother/son or father/daughter dance either. We had a small fruit cake that his mother made and MAILED to me, and we had it decorated like our other "American" cake. In the end, I forgot to throw my bouquet. Oh well. Sounds like we will have very similar receptions :)Helennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-12389917497488421922013-04-04T07:59:03.341-04:002013-04-04T07:59:03.341-04:00haha now I'm a little worried that everything ...haha now I'm a little worried that everything will go wrong at the wedding and none of this will happen... oh, the pressure! :PBetsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-43297813918185447022013-04-04T07:16:21.109-04:002013-04-04T07:16:21.109-04:00I did, but I didn't! but haha I bet the guest ...I did, but I didn't! but haha I bet the guest list thing does go back to my Bat Mitzvah - suffer is the right word :PBetsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-19458228535583231482013-04-03T23:31:22.713-04:002013-04-03T23:31:22.713-04:00Oh my gosh. When I read the part about the glass b...Oh my gosh. When I read the part about the glass breaking, my eye welled up with tears. I cannot wait to see pictures. This wedding is going to be gorgeous.Whitney Hhttp://twitter.com/observantturtlenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-69923635196357644592013-04-03T22:25:40.176-04:002013-04-03T22:25:40.176-04:00I thought it was to symbolize that life isn't ...I thought it was to symbolize that life isn't perfect and there will be broken dishes along the way, but the marriage will persevere?Camilla R.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-16472065451465365492013-04-03T22:24:21.126-04:002013-04-03T22:24:21.126-04:00and of COURSE my mind immediately went to this son...and of COURSE my mind immediately went to this song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLwW7ZDWn5Y<br /><br />BETSY. I FORBID YOU TO USE THIS AS YOUR FIRST DANCE. Sorry to dash your dreams....Camilla R.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-31386076996174133012013-04-03T16:23:13.098-04:002013-04-03T16:23:13.098-04:00Did you have a bat mitzvah? If so, did you not get...Did you have a bat mitzvah? If so, did you not get raised on chairs for that? (Maybe a west coast tradition). So scarey, but I loved it! Yay glass breaking.<br />I don't really understand the difference between the different lists to all the events. I am like you, if you are going to come to part, you are coming to the whole thing. Might just me going back to bat mitzvah hell in that, you suffer through the service to get to the party.purplekat99noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-57699470305147672972013-04-03T15:18:58.194-04:002013-04-03T15:18:58.194-04:00That could work! As long as the song isn't too...That could work! As long as the song isn't too mushy lovey dovey :)andreahttp://www.andreaythomas.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-68577426371653143422013-04-03T15:16:40.235-04:002013-04-03T15:16:40.235-04:00Jon and his mother actively don't want a m/s d...Jon and his mother actively don't want a m/s dance, but I think that maybe Jon can hand me off to my dad halfway through the first dance song but after our guests have joined us on the floor? (Jon only wants like a minute of us dancing alone, haha!)Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-69655954523880566502013-04-03T15:04:14.741-04:002013-04-03T15:04:14.741-04:00We did our dance, then immediately the F/D dance, ...We did our dance, then immediately the F/D dance, then immediately the M/S dance, and the music was not played the whole way through for either the F/D or M/S dances so it wasn't that long. Could you do a joint F/D M/S dance? Are there enough acronyms for you? I think if you want to do one and you don't you may end up regretting it, especially since your dad wants to as well, and you guys seem close. Just my 2 cents, or pence :) We also didn't do the receiving line, and we did a typical American wedding cake but also a typical British wedding fruitcake, and cupcakes, and we had a bangers and mash bar. I tried to incorporate some British traditions in there! And I will keep my mouth shut on the 2 reception invites, it is one thing, even after 3 years and numerous UK weddings, that I just couldn't get behind. Ever.andreahttp://www.andreaythomas.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-29151221784128400272013-04-03T14:06:08.721-04:002013-04-03T14:06:08.721-04:00oof, I have so many reactions to the "mom say...oof, I have so many reactions to the "mom says..." part of this, but my mom reads my blog so I can't publish them! I should probably advise you go along with that she wants :PBetsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-37929830008030360772013-04-03T14:05:16.127-04:002013-04-03T14:05:16.127-04:00haha close - it's the ONE thing our friends as...haha close - it's the ONE thing our friends ask the most about!Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-67700705915724494672013-04-03T13:37:27.635-04:002013-04-03T13:37:27.635-04:00So, basically, you really don't want to be hoi...So, basically, you really don't want to be hoisted up in a chair on your wedding day, but you have a sinking feeling that someone will think that's a GREAT idea, and you'll have to do it anyway.<br /><br /><br />I'm right, right?Belle Viergehttp://twitter.com/belle_viergenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-32633889601590796932013-04-03T12:25:01.047-04:002013-04-03T12:25:01.047-04:00I enjoyed reading this post! I'm planning my w...I enjoyed reading this post! I'm planning my wedding myself (or should be planning) and I love getting these ideas. I wanted to do a separate list for reception and ceremony, but mom says no!Julie Vongnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-24235822109395170752013-04-03T12:04:20.643-04:002013-04-03T12:04:20.643-04:00oh yay YES - honestly I always wonder what my frie...oh yay YES - honestly I always wonder what my friends who are being invited to the wedding think about these posts. like, am I giving away too much? or do you like the sneak peek? good to hear :)Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-168942918044166272013-04-03T11:24:12.700-04:002013-04-03T11:24:12.700-04:00Please tell me it's bagpipes!!!!
Ps. I always ...Please tell me it's bagpipes!!!!<br />Ps. I always look forward to Weddings Wednesday - it is acceptable to live vicariously through you, right?!?! :)Fionanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-3470999189254160042013-04-03T11:23:51.770-04:002013-04-03T11:23:51.770-04:00I think Dad's a little sad about not doing a f...I think Dad's a little sad about not doing a f/d dance, to be honest, but we'll still get to dance! we just won't have all eyes on us, which is okay :)Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-6925161419637743262013-04-03T11:23:08.157-04:002013-04-03T11:23:08.157-04:00haha I've never heard of that! I like the diff...haha I've never heard of that! I like the different theories for what smashing the glass means... it either symbolizes the destruction of the temple or the last time the husband will ever put his foot down again :PBetsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-28136742817883662592013-04-03T11:16:02.861-04:002013-04-03T11:16:02.861-04:00also, we didn't have most of the shenanigans y...also, we didn't have most of the shenanigans you're having either: no receiving line, no feeding each other, I actually didn't throw my flowers, nor did I wear a garter. We had the father/daughter and mother/son dances just cause our parents wanted them so badly. We didn't have cake actually- just ice cream. It was awesome how relaxed and un-wedding like it was, in my opinion :)Jackiehttp://twitter.com/wildchild_jacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-20437947672138445352013-04-03T11:13:44.140-04:002013-04-03T11:13:44.140-04:00The only thing that I didn't get during our we...The only thing that I didn't get during our wedding that I would have loved was plate smashing. I think this is only Greek, but I don't care! Make sure Jon smashes that glass extra hard for me.Jackiehttp://twitter.com/wildchild_jacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-8177402720150318972013-04-03T10:30:31.718-04:002013-04-03T10:30:31.718-04:00I'm staying mum.
Jon doesn't care about ...I'm staying mum.<br /><br /><br />Jon doesn't care about the m/s dance though I do want to do a f/d dance - I just can't figure out how to work it into the larger picture without interrupting the flow of things, you know? I can't see it feeling organic. We'll just make sure I dance with my dad when Tarah (our photographer) is still there :)Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-47487855276157888212013-04-03T10:20:46.220-04:002013-04-03T10:20:46.220-04:00I have been to weddings where there are so many de...I have been to weddings where there are so many designated dances it felt like a talent-less talent show. But really, it sounds like y'all are leaving out all the stuff we left out! <br />I do wish we'd done pictures before hand, but I can't remember why we didn't. I am fairly certain I didn't care about seeing each other... but I also get not wanting to do it, particularly if you are not able to do other meaningful parts of the ceremony (due to the religious aspects rule), then that initial seeing each other moment takes on a lot more emotional load. <br />I AM SO GLAD you're incorporating the glass-shattering, because that's my #1 favorite I-wish-I-was-Jewish wedding tradition. Oh, and having dudes in tall hats stomp/dance around in a line... wait. That's just my Fiddler obsession.<br />And I'm with Kaity. BAGPIPES. And you're going to come in the room doing the Fling.Gescinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-50276663715716939312013-04-03T09:59:49.797-04:002013-04-03T09:59:49.797-04:00I CAN NEITHER CONFIRM NOR DENY.
that's true, ...I CAN NEITHER CONFIRM NOR DENY.<br /><br />that's true, I get that. I think I can't divorce the cost of a wedding from the intimacy, as awful as that might be - like, if I'm going to spend $kajillion per person for the reception, I want them to be there for the vows too. but then I feel like if the ceremony was just immediate family and then we invited all our friends to the party it would be okay? gah - SO MANY OPTIONS.Betsy Transatlanticallyhttp://www.betsytransatlantically.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2442709270787168376.post-60651336510536763252013-04-03T09:53:39.129-04:002013-04-03T09:53:39.129-04:00bagpipes. boom. loud and Scottish.
honestly, I ...bagpipes. boom. loud and Scottish.<br /><br />honestly, I like the idea of separate guest lists for the different parts of the wedding. I think each stage represents something different - the ceremony is more focused on the couple, whereas the reception is more focused on being with the guests, in my mind. I like the idea of having a small ceremony involving a limited number of people (because exchanging vows is a pretty intimate event), but then opening up the reception to a larger crowd so that you can all celebrate together.kaityhttp://browniediaries.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com